Introverts can be complex and mysterious. 🔮
Far too often, the world misunderstands them or takes their behavior personally – misinterpreting seeking solitude as being aloof, disinterested, snobby, upset, etc.
The list goes on.
Aware of how this more reserved nature can make others feel, introverts often feel pressured to “turn it on” and be socially extroverted in order to create comfort and inclusion. However, this is quite energy intensive, and those electing for their own authenticity over communal inclusion may opt out of this dance entirely.
These initial impressions can deter initial relationships from being built or even perplex and erode existing ones – all stemming from a misclassification of preferred being!
In fact, it may surprise you that even as an investor, I myself tend to lean more introverted (caveat: with a strong bent for extraverted intuition)!
(Author’s sidebar: I understand that identifiers like introvert and extrovert can be confusing, limited, and evolve over time… so bear with me.)
How does this self-defined introversion more specifically show up for me? I love people, however, I tend to prefer spending my weekends indoors, where I can immerse myself in meaningful work and creative projects, have movement in nature, engage in focused introspection, and pursue continuous learning across fringe subjects. These activities charge me up – often more than a party. 🥳
While my ambition and scientific curiosity drive me to frequently step out and engage with many founders and other investors, which I love, depending on the context, I can initially be quite reserved in social situations. Personally, this doesn’t stem from anxiety or shyness. Instead, it is indicative of having a grounded presence where I feel at home to be me.
One crucial aspect that often goes unnoticed is that it can take time for introverts to establish a sense of trust and familiarity before inviting others into their innermost circles. Once that connection is forged, they fully open up and go deep.
Recognizing and understanding this dynamic, without the common misunderstandings that arise, can lead to unexpected and rewarding friendship and meaningful connection.
